WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES?
Why do we do this to ourselves?
We did something that yielded results. We learnt something, applied it, and that resulted in some progress. And then we stopped!
I have done it. Have you?
While I was planning to write this, my wife, a Nutrition and Wellness consultant, related a story that buttressed the point. She had coached a client through several issues. They achieved the goals that they set for the 12 weeks of coaching engagement.
Then the client did what most coaching clients do. She stopped!
And then she experienced what many, if not most, coaching clients experience. She relapsed. The previous issues returned. And they are considering starting all over again.
I have also done the same thing in many areas of my life. I get support through coaching, training, mentorship, or mastermind. I begin to develop discipline and habits that yield desired results. I begin to see improvement in significant areas of my life.
And then Destination Disease sets in. I begin to think that I have arrived and can go on my own. I cut off from the support system. For a while, things seem to go well. Then without notice, deterioration begins to set in. I begin to make excuses and take holidays from the disciplines that served me and gave me the results. I struggle to recover for a while. And then I notice that, rather than recover, I am losing more ground.
Finally, I decide to return to the support systems that gave me the initial results. And then things begin to pick up again.
And I ask myself, “Why did you stop?” Why did you sabotage your personal development?
It is quite painful when we remember how much ground we had lost and where we could have been if we had maintained consistency.
Does that sound familiar?
I find some of my executive coaching clients doing the exact same thing! They sign up. They engage the process. They do the work. They see results. They achieve the goals of that engagement, and they are elated. Some of those successes seep into other areas of their lives.
Then they round up the session and go off. They come back after they have lost significant ground through what the Bible calls “the battle between the old and the new man.”
Here is my concern: where would they have been if they had continued the process? What if they had rounded off one engagement and signed up for another that focuses on a different area that was just waiting to sabotage whatever gains they had just made.
Do not let what we have described above happen to you!
Let us follow the example of Apostle Paul who said, “I do not consider myself to have arrived. But this one thing I do: forgetting the past, and looking forward to the future, I press on.”
Do not fall victim of Destination Disease: I have arrived.
What are you going to do now?
Where did you break off? Can you resume, no matter how late it may seem?
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Thank you for reading.
But whatever it takes, take action!
